Day 43 – When Jesus Prays — Part 3

John 17:6,9,11 — “I have revealed you to those whom you gave me out of the world…I pray for them. I am not praying for the world, but for those you have given me, for they are yours…Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name, the name you gave me, so that they may be one as we are one.”

After Jesus asks the Father to glorify him so that the Father might be glorified, Jesus prays for his disciples. And when Jesus prays he asks, “Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name.” Jesus knows that he has been their protection up until this point in the narrative. “While I was with them, I protected them and kept them safe by that name you gave me.” (v.12) Jesus does not want to leave them…because that would mean they are left unprotected. However, he must finish the work of the cross, in order that all mankind might be saved. Jesus has also promised that he would not leave the disciples alone, that he would send another counselor — the Holy Spirit — to be with them and to be in them. (John 14:16-17)

Aside from this Holy Spirit, Jesus also prays for God to protect them “by the power of your name, the name you gave me.” There is power in the Name of Jesus. Protective power that can keep followers (disciples) of Jesus from harm. This Name can make demons shudder and send them fleeing for safety (see James 2:19; Luke 8:31-32). There is everlasting life in the Name of Jesus (John 20:31). The gift of the Holy Spirit comes from repentance and baptism in the Name of Jesus (Acts 2:38). Healing comes in the Name of Jesus (Acts 3:6, 16). There is power in the Name of Jesus.

Ah, but Jesus also gives a reason for this protection, “protect them…so that they may be one as we are one.” The protective power of the Name of Jesus is ultimately for the purpose of his disciples uniting around the Name of Jesus. Picture one umbrella trying to protect 12 different men, each in different locations, from the thousands of raindrops falling on them…now picture each of those men running to that umbrella to seek shelter, protection from the storm. They huddle underneath the protection it provides. Each of the 12 hold on together as one man to the one stem of the umbrella to make sure it doesn’t get swept away by the strong winds. The Name of Jesus is the umbrella. Under the Name of Jesus they may look different, sound different, think different, understand different…but the Name of Jesus brings them together. They are bonded by common purpose and love. They call upon the same Lord, they worship the same God, they are one. When Jesus prays, he prays for protection, power, and unity.

Lord Jesus, thank You for praying for Your disciples. Thank You for providing protection and power. Thank You for asking the Father for unity…may we, as Your disciples, live out this unity of Spirit, truth and love. You are so very good to us. Help us in our frailty truly be one as you and the Father are one. Praise be to Your Name, both now and forevermore! Amen.

Day 41 – Is Prayer Important in Your Life?

Luke 10:41-42 – “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Is prayer important in your life? The default answer for most followers of Jesus would be: “yes”. But let me ask you to carefully and honestly consider this… is prayer important in your life? I’m not talking about just the type of prayer we pray when we are faced with difficult or challenging situations. Is daily communication with God an important part of our relationship with God or is it more of a ritual that we do out of “Christian duty”?

In today’s focal Scripture I see an important Biblical premise each of us should understand: nothing and no one should be more important in our lives than Jesus. Is prayer important? There is a quick test we could do to determine that. What is the one thing in your life that you just refuse to miss? Is it your favorite TV show? Is it your kids baseball game? Is it date night with your spouse? What is that one thing that you will rearrange your whole day for, cancel plans for, and make sure that you have time for? Chances are if we’re being honest, it isn’t prayer.

In my own life I can honestly say that prayer has intensified in challenging and difficult circumstances. I think this is natural and should be expected. But during times of prosperity it can be easy to forget the importance of prayer. In our focal Scripture today we see Martha, a woman on a mission to make sure everyone is served, her guest are comfortable, an amazing, gracious host I have no doubt. In the midst of her busyness, she finally gets overwhelmed and upset. Her sister Mary was far more concerned with hearing Jesus speak than stopping to help her sister with the serving. Although Martha had filled her day with many “good” things, she was missing out on the only thing that was truly needed: Jesus.

How about it then…  is prayer important to you? If I’m being honest, teaching and preaching are important to me. Updating the church’s website and social media are important to me. Writing this devotion has been important to me. Praying is important… but it certainly isn’t most important. How many words have I typed, how many lessons have I taught, how many times have I served and in the busyness of the moment, but I’ve missed God’s true intention.

As you prepare to pray today, I challenge you to truthfully consider the question: is prayer important to me? If prayer was important, wouldn’t you rearrange your day to make sure you never missed it? If prayer was important, wouldn’t you make and keep an appointment to seek God’s face? If you knew that every other part of your life was impacted through that prayerful appointment you kept with God, wouldn’t He then be the one thing you are seeking most? Let’s all be honest and today seek God’s grace to make real, intentional, Christ honoring change in our lives. Let’s humble ourselves and seek God’s face, then and only then will we see true healing in our land.

Father, I confess that I have traded so many good things for the most important thing: You. Lord, I ask for forgiveness for the times of busy distraction when I fill my days with service to You but don’t start by truly seeking You and Your will. Forgive me Lord for the times I have replaced the most important thing with all the other good distractions and have missed the most important thing. Please help me make and keep a devoted time of daily prayer with you. Help me put aside every good thing to seek You knowing that every area of my life will be blessed when I start with you. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Day 40 – The Art of Real Time Prayer

Nehemiah 1:11 – “Lord, let your ear be attentive to the prayer of this your servant and to the prayer of your servants who delight in revering your name. Give your servant success today by granting him favor in the presence of this man.”

Nehemiah 2:4 – The king said to me, “What is it you want?” Then I prayed to the God of heaven

The scripture encourages us to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17) but what does that really mean? Surely Paul can’t mean that the church at Thessalonica is supposed to always be praying.. can he? As it turns out, that’s exactly what he means. The Greek word used for “without ceasing” is adialeiptōs which Strong’s Concordance defines as “incessantly”. Don’t you love when the translation of a word is another word that requires a Google search for context? Maybe that’s just me. Incessantly is defined by “without interruption”. The Message simply translate 1 Thessalonians 5:17: “pray all the time”.

So why is today’s focal verse Nehemiah 1:11 and Nehemiah 2:4 if I’ve focused so much on 1 Thessalonians 5:17? Because this is a perfect, real example of this direction in action. The Art of Real Time Prayer simply refers to the behavior we learn as we mature in the Christian faith of praying and seeking God’s guidance throughout our day. Getting ready for an important meeting at work? Pray. Getting ready to wake the kids up for school? Pray. Having a heated moment of conversation with your spouse? Pray. Learning to seek God’s guidance and obeying Him when He speaks is important.

I once heard of a man who literally prayed over every decision of every day. What should he eat? What should he wear? Where should he sit in the restaurant? All decisions that have to be made but probably don’t require the type of prayer we are talking about. Burger King or McDonalds? Chances are likely God doesn’t care (not like my wife, He really doesn’t care). Should you share the Gospel with the restaurant employee who struck up a conversation with you? Pray (but the answer will almost always be a resounding “yes”).

In today’s focal Scripture we see Nehemiah who was in exile in Persia. The Jews had been taken into captivity and now lived in a foreign land because of their rebellion against God. Nehemiah was getting ready to have one of the most important conversations of his life, and with the earthly king of the Persian empire no less. Although Nehemiah had been praying for weeks, we see the Art of Real Time Prayer come in to play when Nehemiah says that he “prayed to the God of heaven”.

The challenge for today’s devotion is not only make specific, dedicated, daily prayer time where we seek God’s will for our lives but also praying real time. It isn’t either/or, but both and. We should be praying daily for our day and then throughout the day for God’s guidance. We must learn to seek God’s will throughout the day and obey Him when He speaks. Learning the Art of Real Time Prayer can help us be a more Christ honoring spouse, parent, friend, worker, and neighbor. As you prepare to pray today, I wonder: how many times are you seeking God’s will throughout the day? How many wrong choices could have been avoided if you’d spent just an extra moment to seek God’s will before you spoke or reacted? Confess that to Him today and ask Him to aide you in this learned behavior of “praying without ceasing”.

Father, we confess that sometimes we wait to seek Your will until it’s too late. Lord, we say or do things before asking for Your directive and it can end poorly. Help us to learn how to pray without ceasing. Help us learn the Art of Real Time Prayer in which we communicate with You throughout our day. Lord, we know our lives will be richer, more abundant when we seek and obey Your will throughout our day. Lord, please help us know when to pray, when to act, what to say, and how to react when You speak. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Day 38 – Not Giving Up in Prayer

Luke 18:1 – Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up.

I have the cure for whatever your facing. Not really but pretend with me a minute. Is it some cruel disease like cancer? I have the cure. Are you trying to quit smoking or drinking? I have a solution that works 100% of the time. Is your marriage falling part? I have the advice that is going to change it all. Now that you know… are you going to come ask me to share it with you? Of course you are. What if I say no? No I won’t share it with you. Are you going to give up that easily? I didn’t think so.

Before we move on in today’s devotion, remember what we’ve already said: God is not some cosmic genie that responds to our every beckon and call. Sometimes God’s answer is no, even to our most desperate prayers. But the question for today is: do you give up in prayer too quickly? Do you pray half-hearted prayers never really believing that God would answer your request even know He could? Sometimes do you believe that God couldn’t even answer your prayer if He wanted to? Where is your persistence in prayer? Where is your faith?

In today’s focal Scripture we see that Jesus is telling His disciples a story. The purpose of His story is laid out in our verse: “to show them that they should always pray and not give up.” I encourage you strongly to open your Bible to Luke chapter 18 and find this parable because it’s powerful. To summarize, we should persistently seek God in our prayers and not give up. Pray like your life depended on it. If God doesn’t answer right away… keep praying. Pray until God answers clearly and then trust Him through the answer.
I’ve said it before but prayer really changes our heart when we seek God’s will in it. I can remember for years praying about something I thought I desperately needed in my life. I prayed and prayed, ultimately God never answered that prayer in the way I thought He should. Fast forward and eventually the prayer I prayed had been answered in a very real and different way. Through the answer to my prayer when I finally had what I thought I desperately needed, I found that what I thought I needed was never really what God knew I needed.

Sometimes we can’t see the forest for the trees; have you ever experienced that? As you prepare to pray today, I encourage you to start by asking God to reveal to you your heart. Ask God to search you and reveal the truth about what you’re praying for (Psalm 139:23-24). As it turns out, the prayer I desperately prayed was because I had totally misunderstood (or resisted) what God’s Word had to say concerning who I was supposed to be as a husband. Meditate on these two thoughts as you prepare to pray today: are you giving up too easy in prayer? If God answered your prayer, would it really be game changer you think it would be? Ask Him to reveal the truth and change your heart through it.

Father, I confess sometimes I give up too easily in prayer. Through a mixture of doubt, frustration, despair, and hopelessness, I get discouraged and stop praying before You’ve ever answered. Lord, help me to persistently seek You and to continue seeking You until You give me a clear answer. Once You’ve answered Father, help me accept that Your way is always the best way. Please encourage me when I’m disheartened and discouraged. Please fill me with Your presence and strength, in Jesus’ name I pray, amen.

Day 37 – Praying Prayers of Anguish

1 Samuel 1:10 – In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the Lord, weeping bitterly.

Chances are likely that if you’ve been alive long, you’ve prayed prayers of “deep anguish”. It’s interesting that in times of intense hurt that both those who trust in Christ and those who don’t even believe in God both pray desperate prayers. As the old saying goes: there are no atheist in foxholes. Webster defines anguish as: extreme pain, distress, or anxiety. Have you ever prayed in “deep” anxiety or pain?

Sometimes in the midst of great grief or suffering, God can feel far away. Sometimes God can appear silent or even worse, apathetic or uncaring to our prayers. The enemy fills our heads with lies and questions God’s goodness, so we begin to wonder. If we are being honest, each one of us have had a crisis of faith or will have at some point during our life. But as David so beautifully observed: we can’t escape God’s love (Psalm 139:7-12). Sometimes for me personally, it can seem as if Satan is relentlessly trying to bring every truth of God’s Word into question. Time and time again God reminds me: His Word is true, even when it doesn’t “feel” like it.

Today we see a desperate prayer of Hannah. A barren woman who was loved by her husband but unable to conceive a child. This woman comes before God and prays, weeps, and pleads with God to intercede. I imagine her prayer in “dep anguish” didn’t just come out of one painful experience. She and her husband must have tried to conceive time and time again and she was unable to carry a child. Hannah knew what everyone of us will learn: God is the only one who can answer our most desperate prayers.

Perhaps you’re like Hannah and you’ve been praying in deep anguish. Maybe you’ve prayed for mercy and that God would spare someone’s life. Maybe you’ve prayed a child might be delivered from a drug addiction. Maybe you’ve prayed for a job. Maybe you’ve prayed for a better marriage. Whatever you’ve been pleading with God about, sometimes it can seem like He isn’t listening or even aware of your suffering. I promise He is. One thing I’ve learned over the course of the 9 years I’ve been following the Lord is: I can trust Him even when I don’t “feel” Him. He will keep His promises.

Today as you prepare to pray, I wonder: has the enemy convinced you that God doesn’t care? Has doubt began to creep in and the anguish has become deep? Is your heart heavy under the stress and pain with whatever your dealing with? Begin your prayer here today. Just as Hannah said concerning her prayer, let us seek to do today: “I was pouring out my soul to the Lord” (1 Samuel 1:15). Come before God in humble honesty and pour out your soul to Him. No matter what the enemy or anyone else has said let us: Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. (Psalm 136:1 NIV).

Father, help us come before you in total honesty and submission today. Lord, let us leave our religious views of prayer at the door and instead come seeking Your faithful love. Our hearts cry out before You knowing that You and You alone are the Author and Sustainer of our faith. Jesus our hearts cry out for Your promises to fill us with joy. We confess every moment of doubt, every painful heartache, and every fear that has crept into our minds. Lord, we know that you are faithful and we can come to You in our desperation, You alone will give us rest. We thank you for Your unfailing promises and the love that You show us. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Day 34 – Praying in Jesus Name

“And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son.” (John 14:13)

In yesterday’s devotion we took a hard look at false teachings that attack our Biblical understanding of prayer. One false teaching we looked at was the “name it and claim it” delusion. In this we discussed the fact that God isn’t some cosmic genie that responds to our every beckon and call. But there is one very real, powerful truth we should remember in prayer: there is power in the name of Jesus. Claiming the pure promises of Scripture is not only Biblical, it is a great way to drive away the lies of our enemy.

You’ve often heard it in church or as others pray, we end by praying in “Jesus’ name”. Why do we end our prayers this way? In short, it brings glory to God through His Son Jesus. Our prayers alone are not powerful. Reciting God’s promises alone don’t have a supernatural affect. Praying in faith, trusting God’s will, through Jesus, and claiming the promises of God shake the very gates of hell. Plainly, there is power in Jesus name and through our faith in Him every promise is “yes” and “amen” (2 Corinthians 1:20).

One important reminder is that if our prayers contradict God’s will and character, it doesn’t matter how many times we pray in Jesus name, we shouldn’t expect a move of God. Sometimes I wonder why this is such a deep struggle for followers of Christ to understand. I think at the very root of accepting false teaching to be real is a deep desire for God to conform to our desires instead of us conforming to His (2 Timothy 4:3). When we allow our desires about who we wish God was to supersede the facts about who God is, disaster is always near.

I’ve heard of so many shipwrecked faiths where people stopped believing in God because He didn’t act the way they thought He should. Recently my wife and I took our daughter Annabelle in for her four-month check-up. For those who don’t have children or if you’re children are older, the four-month check-up features multiple shots for some of her earliest vaccines. Guess what? Shots hurt. Even my defenseless, precious daughter knows that. Guess who got to hold her little shoulders and arms down so the nurse could give her those shots? That’s right, dear old dad. Because I allowed pain to come into her life, do I love her any less? Certainly not. I know that even greater pain would come without the shots.

As you prepare to pray today, I encourage you to pray the promises of God. Don’t just pray the promises of God as a tool to try to remind God of what He’s promised, trust me when I say He hasn’t forgotten. Praying His promises should remind us of His unfailing love and faithfulness. I encourage you to pray in Jesus’ name knowing there is power in His name. Through the prayer of every promise and by praying in Jesus’ name, don’t forget to surrender your will and desire to God’s. Lastly, as you enter into prayer don’t let suffering past, present, or future, deter you from trusting in a faithful, unfailing God.

Father, the very fact that you allow us to call you Father should serve as a loving reminder for us today. Father forgive us when we fail to fully grasp the depth of your love. Forgive us when we struggle in prayer and help dispel any false teaching that has infiltrated our hearts. Lord, let us see your Word with new eyes and hear Your voice with clear ears. Your sheep know Your voice, help us hear You speak. Lord, help us trust you even when it hurts. Remind us to set our eyes on You as the Author and Perfecter of our faith, everything else is temporary. Help us know and claim Your promises, in Jesus’ name, amen.

Day 33 – Prayers with Pure Motives

When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. (James 4:3)

There is a poison that has infiltrated the church in the world masquerading as the “gospel”. Understanding this bad theology is important so we aren’t perplexed when God doesn’t appear to function in the way these false teachers claim. There are two flavors of the same false gospel known as the “prosperity gospel” and though it is hard for us to call out this false teaching, it is helpful as we consider prayer.

There are different degrees of this false teaching but at it’s core it goes something like this: God wants you to be happy, healthy, and wealthy… if you aren’t those things, it’ because you don’t have faith. The more faith, the more prosperity. The “name it and claim it” teaching goes along these same lines. If you “name it” in Jesus name, and “claim it” in faith, it’ll be yours… today’s Scripture destroys this entire false narrative. The God of the Scriptures isn’t concerned with your physical prosperity that is temporary and worldly, He is far more concerned with your spiritual prosperity since it has eternal consequences.

James writes that we have not because we ask not, but lest we be confused and tempted to think the “name it and claim it” teaching holds water, he follows up: when you do ask you don’t get what you’re asking for because you have impure motives. God cares about the heart of our prayers and thus the motives of our prayers matter. When we seek God in prayer above all else, we should seek His will. As it turns out, it may not be God’s will for you to have that brand-new house, that six figure salary, that healthy check-up, or that amazing new set of golf clubs. If we will remember that God isn’t some all-powerful, cosmic genie there to grant our hearts deepest desires, it will help build a proper foundation in prayer.

I recall Jesus’ prayer in the Garden of Gethsemane often and I think this prayer could serve as a stark reminder for us all. As Jesus spends his last night before the crucifixion with His disciples, he is desperately praying in the garden. On the other side of the sun rise Jesus knows He will face the mocking, the torture, the false accusations, the abandonment of His friends, and most cruelly He will face the cross to be put to a criminal’s death as He suffers for our sins. In His prayer He is almost overcome by emotion to the point of death and He prays: “Father, if it be your will, let this cup pass from my hand. But not my will Father, Thy will be done.” God’s will was done and the cup did not pass from Jesus hand…

As you prepare to pray today, I wonder: are you holding on to some false sense of what prayer is all about? Do you keep hoping that God might answer a selfish prayer with impure motives? Chances are He won’t. As you pray today, what if the things you are asking are contrary to God’s will for your life? Are you prepared, even to the point of suffering, to trust Him and His refining work? Although it may be easier to believe a false teaching about prayer and God, it is far better for us to pray for faith to trust God in prayer and that we would always yield our will to Him.

Father, forgive any impure or selfish prayers we’ve prayed. As we come to you in Jesus’ name, help us to seek Your will for our lives. When we pray Father, reveal to us the true motives of our prayers. Help us grow in this area as we seek to dispel any false teaching concerning prayer or faith. Lord, teach us to be faithful as you were in seeking the Father’s will knowing it is far better to suffer in God’s will than to prosper out of it. Teach us to trust you even when things don’t make sense and remind us that our treasure is in heaven. It’s in Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Day 32 – The God of Our Prayers

“Answer me, O LORD! Answer me, so that this people will know that You, the LORD, are God, and that You have turned their hearts back again.” (1 Kings 18:38)

Because of our status through faith in Christ before God, we are His children (John 1:12), sometimes I think the “who” God is eludes us. As God beckons us to come boldly (with audacity) before His throne to find mercy and grace to help in our time of need, we forget that this same God also hung the moon and the stars. Though our Father is all powerful, all knowing, and the very manifestation of true love (1 John 4:8), sometimes for me at least I wonder if I forget all that when I come before Him.

Dr. James Dobson in his book “When God Doesn’t Make Sense” writes of something he calls the “betrayal barrier”. This is the barrier that so many of us feel when we think that God has let us down. When He could have kept us from pain or suffering, and didn’t. When we desperately prayed in faith that God would do something and He didn’t do what we asked. Dr. Dobson says that many Christians find their relationship inhibited by this betrayal barrier and some never fully recover. Do you feel like God has ever “betrayed” you in prayer?

If I’m being honest, I can remember several instances where I prayed to the God of heaven knowing He was fully capable of doing what I asked and yet He didn’t. Over and over again I have struggled with the thought: God is sovereign, all powerful, and fully in control… why didn’t He keep the wreck from happening? He could have prevented the wreck that stole my 4-year-old Brynleigh and claimed the life of my late wife Cassie, so why didn’t He? For some time, I felt betrayed, angry and hurt. It has only been God’s continued grace and loving kindness that has slowly helped me understand that He did have a purpose for the immense suffering in my life.

So, who is our God really? Elijah found out. In today’s focal Scripture we see Elijah (the last prophet of God) boldly standing against the false prophets that were numerous. Elijah prays a powerful prayer and God moves in a mighty way that leaves no doubt in the lives of those around him about who was the one true God of the universe. Instead of recounting the story with you, I encourage you to open God’s Word to 1 Kings chapter 18 and read the account for yourself. As you read it, remember this is the same God who loves you, knows you, and gave His only Son Jesus so you could be forgiven and free (John 3:16).

Elijah prays a powerful prayer in today’s focal Scripture. Notice the focus and hope of Elijah’s prayers: “Answer me, so that this people will know that You, the LORD, are God”. Elijah’s prayer is that God would reveal Himself as the one true God of the universe and that they would all know: “You have turned their hearts back again”. How does the betrayal barrier and Elijah’s prayer go together? Because God does not and will not answer prayers in the way we think He should. God is moving in ways outside of our understanding.

What was God’s purpose in taking my 4-year-old daughter Brynleigh? What was God’s purpose in allowing my late wife to lose her struggle and leave this life too? What good could have possibly came out of the suffering my son Kasen and I’ve done over the past three years? Looking back at each moment over my life, especially in the last three years, God has moved in an incalculable way. He has used the pain and suffering to help me pour out my heart to the nations praying He might turn “their hearts back again” to the only One who can save them.

Today I want to challenge you to remember the “who” you are praying to. The same God that spoke the universe into existence by the power of His Word loves you, knows you, and through Jesus hears your prayers. When He “Doesn’t Make Sense”, pray for strength to trust Him. When you are broken laying in a helpless mess on the ground, turn your heart towards Jesus, He will give you rest (Matthew 11:28). When you feel betrayed, you’re hurting and your Elijah moment never comes, be still and know Jesus is still “the LORD” and He alone is “God”.

Father, help us trust you even when Your way is not the way we would have chose. In Jesus’ name we ask that you would clear away the doubt, fear, pain, and any sense You’ve let us down so we could boldly trust You. Teach is Lord to seek Your will above our own. Teach us Lord to trust You even when it hurts. Lord give us just a glimpse of Your glorious plan and help us to understand that You are truly using all things for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose. We pray that you would help us magnify the name of Jesus and lift Him up so that all men would come to know He alone is Lord. It’s in Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Day 30 – Moving on in Prayer

Then David got up from the ground. After he had washed, put on lotions and changed his clothes, he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. Then he went to his own house, and at his request they served him food, and he ate. (2 Samuel 12:20)

Over the course of the last few devotions we’ve talked about being persistent in prayer and praying selflessly for others. Today, we are going to talk about a much more difficult topic: moving on in prayer. In today’s focal Scripture we see David, the same David the Scripture describes as a “man after God’s own heart” (Acts 13:22), getting up after God had answered a desperate plea. David’s son with Bathsheba (the wife of Uriah with whom David had an affair) had died. David had desperately prayed for his newborn son that God might spare his child and let him live, God’s answer came through David’s son’s death.

As the father of a child who has gone on to be with the Lord, I can tell you that the death of a child almost destroyed me. Losing Brynleigh Grace was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to endure. It is by the grace of God alone (the grace that she got her middle name from) that sustained me through her death. Unlike David, I didn’t have the opportunity to pray for her as she suffered in the pangs of death. As I look at David’s response as his son died, I am astonished at his faith and the faith filled actions.

If you go to 2 Samuel chapter 12 and read, you’ll find that the servants and those around David were almost perplexed by his response. The King had been praying, fasting, weeping for his son while his son fought for his life. He pleaded with God for mercy for his child and God said no. After the death of his son, David finished his prayer and fasting and he moved on. Don’t misunderstand what I’m getting ready to say, I am confident that David loved his child and losing the child was incredibly painful. But, David had learned what you and I need to learn: when God gives an answer for our prayer, it’s time to move on.

I almost moved on from this devotion without capturing one of the most stunning response we see from David who had just been pouring out his desperation for his child’s life before God. After God did not spare his son, David entered into the ‘house of the Lord’ and worshiped God! I can frankly and honestly say that my immediate response was not David’s response. After the death of my daughter I struggled for weeks, months, and years with her death. Know this: God has been faithfully patient, loving, and tender to me through every moment.

The truths of God’s Word are so precious and important for us to understand. I’ve called this out in our earlier devotions but the entire childish thought that God “never says no” is a spiritually immature perspective that won’t withstand reality. God does say no. When God says no, we could spend time pleading and beginning like a child who wants dessert or a toy at the store or we could trust Him even when the answer is difficult to accept.

As I sit here writing this devotion, I know what I’m sharing is difficult but I believe this is a Christ honoring way to pray. When God’s answer is “no”, instead of begging for Him to change His mind, how different would our lives be if we prayed for Him to give us grace to walk through that no. How different would it be if we asked for faith to trust Him. How different would it be if we prayed “Thy will be done”, and truly meant it? How different would our lives be if we not only knew that God is using all things for good (Romans 8:28), but that we trusted it?

As you prepare to pray today, remember that God is using all things for good. That doesn’t mean all things are good… it doesn’t mean they feel good or that the things themselves are even good, it means that God is using all things (even our most desperate pain and suffering) for good. As the Master Weaver of time, He is meticulously weaving every moment of time to work out His perfect will for creation. Ask yourself today: when has God’s reply been no? How did that affect your pray life? Is there some doubt or fear that God may say no again? If so, start today by confessing any struggle or doubt. Then trust Him, even in the “no”.

Father, today we confess Lord that as your children it’s hard to hear you say no. Lord, I confess the spiritual memory of some painful no answers to my prayers. Lord we know that you aren’t some cosmic genie who answers our every beckon and call. You are our Good Father and You know what we need, when we need it, and how we need it. Lord just as David did, teach us to move on with our lives when Your answer to our prayer is no. Teach is that we can trust you through every answered prayer, even when the answer isn’t what we hoped for or longed for. Sustain us in the midst of our pain and fear. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

Day 29 – The ‘Who’ to Pray For

1 Timothy 1:21 – I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people—

Stop and think for a moment… when you pray, who are your prayers focused on? If I’m being honest, my prayers are heavily filled with prayers concerning myself, my wife, my children, and those who are close to me. Simply put, my prayers are very selfish or self-centered sometimes. Although I think what we pray for most reveals what (or who) is most important in our life, I think consistently selfish prayers can become robotic and cold.

I’ve asked the question before as I’ve taught: are you praying about it as much as your talking about it? In some circles one may even have to ask… are people praying about it as much as they are complaining about it, gossiping about it, or being hurt about it? Jesus says: “where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21) and I think this same premise might be applied to our prayer life to discover what’s really most important to us.

Are you like me? Sometimes can you be selfish in prayer? In today’s focal Scripture Paul urges us to pray for “all people”. There is a very real call for the people of God to go before Him and lift up others selflessly as we seek God’s intervention in the lives and affairs of mankind. I’ve said throughout this devotional series that prayer is not intended to change God’s heart; it is intended to change ours. While I wholeheartedly embrace that truth, I know that our prayers are precious to God and I do believe God moves powerfully to meet the needs and requests of His children. Knowing this, avoid the temptation to believe that when God’s will isn’t a “yes” answer to our prayers that our prayers didn’t matter, they still do.

It can be difficult to pray for those we don’t like or those we don’t agree with. Often I find this most evident in the polarized world of politics. I wonder how different some of our leaders may be if we united in prayer for them and consistently asked for God’s wisdom for them. Often we allow our dislike of someone to cut off any chance of praying for them. I wonder, what if that person you don’t really like who causes your life to be more difficult desperately needs your prayers? What if you are the only person praying for them? The husband you think will never change, what if God’s heart is moved to change him through your loving prayers? Remember: the prayers of a Christian in communion with God are powerful and effective (James 5:16).

Today as you begin to pray, I challenge you to ask God: Lord, who do you want me to pray for? Ask Him to put a face or name on your mind and then lift that person up to Him in prayer. You don’t have to know all the details, they may not have even asked for prayer, pray anyway. Ask God to show you how selfish your prayer life may have been up to this point and begin seeking His help to be a selfless servant, even in prayer. Don’t stop lifting up your own needs to God, simply begin making time to lift up others too.

Father, today we come seeking your grace and mercy in Jesus name. Lord we confess that sometimes our prayers can selfish and self-centered. Lord, help us to lift others, even those we may not like, up to you in prayer. Lord help us realize that prayer is intended to change our hearts, not Yours. Lord help us to know your heart concerning prayer and begin to understand the power of this conversation. Put someone on our heart right now that we need to pray for Lord. Help us to make time to pray for others and consistently seek Your will for their lives too. Thank you for hearing our prayers and we are so thankful You hear us, in Jesus’ name we pray, amen.